2012-12-01 A Holiday Season with Less Stress

The holidays can be a joyful time, offering a chance to reconnect with friends and family. But they can also be stressful. You may feel pressure to buy and give gifts. Maybe you are worried about money. The holidays can also be hectic. There never seems to be enough time to get things done.

Here are some ideas that may help:

 

Preparing for the holidays

 

Know your spending limit. Lack of money is one of the biggest causes of stress during the holiday season. This year, set a budget, and don’t spend more than you’ve planned. It’s okay to tell your child that a certain toy costs too much. Don’t buy gifts that you’ll spend the rest of the year trying to pay off. Some children and adults make very longs lists of what they want to receive. Tell them they they have to narrow the list down to 1-2 items. You can’t do it all!

Give something personal. You can show love and caring with any gift that is meaningful and personal. It doesn’t have to cost a lot. Or use words instead of an expensive gift to let people know how important they are to you. Make a phone call or write a note and share your feelings. Make a special meal for someone. Play a game together. Bake something for them. Make a special card and write the things you really love and appreciate about them.

Get organized. Make lists or use an appointment book to keep track of tasks to do and events to attend.

Share the tasks. You don’t have to do everything yourself. Share your “to do” list with others. Spend time with friends and family while you share tasks like decorating, wrapping gifts, and preparing the holiday meal.

Learn to say no. It’s okay to say “no” to events that aren’t important to you. For some of us the “no muscle” is very difficult to use. This will give you more time to say “yes” to events that you do want to attend. Delegate. Some people are just waiting to be asked. Some people are not mind readers. Some need to be directly asked.

Be realistic. Try not to put pressure on yourself to create the perfect holiday for your family. Focus instead on the traditions that make holidays special for you. And remember that just because it’s a holiday, family problems don’t go away. If you have a hard time being around your relatives, it’s okay to set limits on your time at events and visits. Tell them you promised someone else a visit. (They don’t have to know that promise was for you to spend time with yourself).

Large family–everyone choose one person to buy a gift for. Over the years with growing families it is overwhelming trying to buy a gift for everyone. Another idea that my family has made a tradition –draw a name out of a hat. You could do this with friends or at the office too. We write the names on a piece of paper of everyone that will be gathering together on Christmas Eve after our Thanksgiving dinner. Everyone writes their name on their own piece of paper and writes a couple of ideas of what they might like (often gift cards, which is also less stressful). We buy for only the person that we picked out of the hat. Everyone has something to open and we are not buying for 20+ people. A dollar amount is also decided upon in advance.

Grab Bag. Everyone purchase a small gift and wrap it with no name. Everyone pulls a number written on a piece of paper. Person with number 1 chooses a wrapped gift first. Everyone sees what they opened. Number 2 can choose to take the gift away from the person who already opened or select a wrapped present. The person with the highest number actually gets to choose among all the open gifts. Usually these gifts are $5 to $10 each. You decide in advance what you want that $ amount to be.

 

During the holidays

 

  • You may not be able to avoid all stressful situations during the holidays. But you can plan to respond to them in a healthy way.
  • *Take breaks from group activities.
  • Pay attention to your own needs and feelings.
  • Spend a little time by yourself if you can. Meditate, or do some relaxation breathing. Go for a short walk. *Keep a regular sleep, meal, and exercise schedule.
  • Limit your alcohol. If you do drink alcohol or soda, hydrate yourself. For every glass of soda or alcohol also drink a full glass of water. *Taking care of yourself will help you deal with stressful situations during the holidays. Get support if you need it. Holidays can sometimes trigger depression. They can be especially hard if you are already dealing with the death of a loved one or the breakup of a relationship. You may feel embarrassed to ask for help, or you may think that you’ll get over “the blues” on your own. But some people need treatment to get better. Sometime you just need someone to talk to who will listen without judgement. As a Health and Life Coach that is part of what I do. I help you discover other choices for food and lifestyle.

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METAMORPHOSIS ~ Body, Mind and Spirit ~ Weigh Less Program__

 

Special Introductory Price Until December 31, 2011 $200.00

8 Group Sessions $25.00 Per Session Per Person

 

If you register after December 31st the rate will be $250.00 for the 8 Session Program.

 

Gift Certificates are available upon request. Treat yourself to something really special or ask for it for your holiday gift. A gift of health, happiness and balance that will benefit your whole family.

 

Program will begin in January 2012. Register early and save $50.00 A couple of classes have begun for those who wanted to start early.

 

I am working on a schedule right now. We will begin the first Session for the New Year:

Saturday, December 10, 2010 from 11:30-12:30

Wednesday ,January 4, 2012 from 6:00-7:00 PM

Thursday, January 5, 2012 from 6:00-7:00 PM

Monday, January 9, 2012 from 5:30-6:30 PM

Tuesday, January 10, 2012 from 6:00-7:00 PM

Saturday, January 14, 2012 from 10:00-11:00 AM

Saturday, January 14, 2012 from 12:00-1:00 PM

 

You choose any of the above date/time that works for you. These dates are all for Session 1 Please register in advance. Class size is limited. Feel free to post this schedule at work and forward to friends and family. The rest of the dates will be announced later. I just want to give you the opportunity to plan ahead for your METAMORPHOSIS~Body, Mind and Spirit.

 

**All 8 Sessions will be held at my home:

32 Woodfield Dr. Shelton, CT 06484 203-929-9414**

 

If any of the above dates do not work for you but you are interested please email me @ debbiebarbiero@yahoo.com debbie@metamorphosisbodymindspirit .com and together we may be able to come up with another date/time.

 

Your Program will Include:

 

One hour class each Session for 8 Sessions

  • Newsletters and email support
  • Access to a lending library of health and wellness books
  • A cooking class
  • A Class on Juicing
  • One group exercise class
  • Group Weight Loss Support every class
  • Stress Management Class
  • Understanding and Reducing Cravings
  • Goal Setting every class
  • Nutrition Education
  • Balance ** The scale is optional.

Healthy relationships, a fulfilling career, regular physical activity and a spiritual practice are essential forms of nourishment. When these “Primary Foods” are balanced, what you eat becomes secondary.

Check out my website for more information about me and what I offer as a Certified Health and Life Coach, AADP

www.metamorphosisbodymindspirit.com